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#1

• 豆
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• 2024/07/15 14:20

Nice to meet you. I am currently 44 years old. I moved here last February to marry an American man. He is 8 years younger than me. Including our dating period, we have been together for about 5 years. We talked about breaking up many times during our relationship. （ From me ） That is he is arrogant, does not bend his opinion, justifies himself, does not admit fault, makes me look bad. He says everything as if it is my fault. His excuses are too childish, etc. But I'm not perfect either, and we have different cultures and values, so I had to break it many times at first.

I was in business in Japan for 10 years. I worked alone for 10 years in Japan, never depending on anyone. Then came Corona, business slowed down, and at that point I asked ？ if I could come to the US for 3 months to get engaged. I made the decision to close my business because I didn't know what would happen with Corona even if I continued my business, and I knew that if I took 3 months off work, I would lose my job. However, the business loan remained and I am still paying it. I never thought when I started the business that I would meet and marry a foreigner.

Then I moved to Japan last year, but the big change in environment, lack of money, and language barrier caused depression last year and it got worse. No matter how bad my depression got, they wouldn't let me go back to Japan even though I wanted to go back just temporarily.

He is a person who thinks he is the most righteous person, he disrespects me, he does not respect me, and many other things.

He is a person who cannot honestly admit his mistakes, he makes excuses for this and that and blames me for the opposite.

When you are on good terms, don't worry about money. You can save money for your debts or to get a new license in the US. But when you fight, it will be overturned.

"You save money only for you and I share with you"
"You wanted a divorce from the beginning"
"You think nothing of my stress and pressure"
"I don't want you to have my property. I don't want you to take my property away from me," etc. Whenever we fight or I talk about divorce, he says this.

A few months ago he took my feelings into consideration and said, "You can go back to Japan or go to school for your license in the US, either way I will pay for half of the travel expenses you spent in Corona and I will respect you no matter which decision you make. But yesterday, during our fight, he again showed the same lack of respect for me.

I am wondering if he has multiple personalities ？.

And he acts like a victim. How it is my fault, I only want a divorce, in your opinion. He even says that you control me and threaten me by saying so.

I am not controlling at all and every time I say it because I really think divorce would be better.

I'm stupid enough to try to believe you again.
But in the end he wants to control me because he himself is the one who wants me to respect and honor him and be kind to him and always want me to work for him.

Yesterday I said, "You said you would respect my decision. Please abide by it. "I told him about the divorce.

But instead of respecting it, he started criticizing me again.

And even when it came to the money he said he would pay half
of, he added, "Consider the cost of the visa application, the legal fees for the green card ！, etc." After all he doesn't want to pay a penny if we are getting divorced.

He just wants to look good, I am a good man who is devoted and supportive of my wife, very nice on the outside but childish on the inside.

We had another problem earlier this year. I started driving a car he hadn't driven for years after he emigrated.

Then one day the police pulled me over. The police said, "This car is out of insurance and its so-called inspection ？ expired a few years ago."

I was stunned. But his point is
"I hadn't driven it for so many years that I forgot about those things."

It's clear that the insurance is expired if I haven't driven it for years, and I would normally think that he would at least do maintenance on it before letting me drive it, but he ignores things like insurance and inspections, even though maintenance is fine, but he's not letting me drive it on the freeway by myself. That's where I worry that it's not safe. It is completely wrong. Then I received the paperwork regarding the police ticket and thought I was safe because I paid it online, but recently, six months later, I received the paperwork from the court.

"The remaining violation fee is still outstanding".

He contacted the court because he didn't understand what it meant, but as it turned out, the court documents themselves were opaque, but he was also opaque and his excuse for paying was that he had never been through this process before and didn't understand.

If I didn't know, I would go to the court with the documents.

But he didn't the first time. It was like this is probably how it would be. As a result, I'm waiting to hear back from the judge whether my license will expire after one year or last for five years, and it's unclear when that will be.

He has everything taken care of by the company （ his car is provided by the company ） which means he can't do even the most common things himself.

He still says "trust me", but he said the same thing when I got my first ticket and I trusted him, and this is the result.

He's too moral and he's too appropriate, I don't think he'll ever change.

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#2

• Riku
• 2024/07/17 (Wed) 22:33
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What are the factors that make you unwilling or unable to get a divorce ？?

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• Riko
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• 2024/07/19 (Fri) 21:24
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If it is okay with me, I can listen to what you have to say. I've been through a lot myself.

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• sceana
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• Yesterday 01:35

ハワイ在住の皆様。はじめまして。
私は日本在住のものです。
父親のことでどうしても確認が取りたくこちら使わせていただいています。
今から２０年前（2006年）から１０年前前後で　『日本人祖父のルーツ、祖父の墓を訪ね日本から、佐藤』こんな記事が
地元新聞に載ったというのですが到底信じられません。
当時、レストラン食事中？母親と息子に地元新聞で見かけ声をかけられたと言ってます。
どこで父の写真が流れハワイ地元新聞に載るのか。
いわゆる、身勝手、自己中、大ぼら吹き人間で今現在かなり大迷惑しています。
この記事知ってる、ここで調べられる、もしご存じのかたいらっしゃいましたら
助けてください。
戸籍上父親であっても、許せない思いはたくさんあります。
今、痴呆の始まりであっても私は我慢したくありません。
どうか、お知恵おねがいします。
自分がわかることは、
、カウアイ島、オフア島、モロカイ島、カネオラヴェ島ここの地元新聞だと思います。

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#2

• Copilot
• Yesterday 18:15
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英語版でしたか？日本語版でしたら「日刊サン」かな？

しかし、ハワイの日本語フリーペーパー・日刊紙「日刊サン・ハワイ（Nikkan Sun Hawaii）」は、
2024年3月31日をもって休刊となりました（2003年4月1日創刊、約20年の歴史に幕）。

◆過去のニュースやコラムの一部は、公式X（旧Twitter）の@nikkansanや日刊サン ハワイ公式Facebookなどで確認できます。

◆ウェブ版（nikkansan.net）の過去記事アーカイブについては現在も閲覧できるページが残っている場合がありますが、更新は終了しています。

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• Yume
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• 2021/05/19 00:51

Is the Royal Lukhio pool construction finished ？ and for how long ？?

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#6

• Fook Amber
• 2021/07/19 (Mon) 12:59
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You say that Royal Lukhio's management is not incompetent
I have never heard anyone I know say that management is competent. There is plenty of evidence that it is incompetent. I often hear that previous management was better.

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#7

• なす
• 2021/07/21 (Wed) 03:51
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There used to be a white guy
with a bald head
well, he was decent.

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#8

• ナパ
• 2021/07/23 (Fri) 03:36
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Dressing like a woman, smoking all the time at the door
too bad image.
Hurry up and replace him with a new manager
again.

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• Fook Amber
• 2021/08/11 (Wed) 18:31
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Fake Maybachs in women's clothing, always in the morning, right outside the garage, but just because you're the manager, anything goes ？
You let the maintenance guy walk the dog and use the bathroom, just because he's the manager, anything goes ？

. It's like putting a Maybach mark on a Mercedes Benz or a Lexus mark on a Toyota.

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#11

• 予定
• 2026/11/05 (Thu) 00:36
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宿泊予定です。
現在はロイヤルクヒオの工事はしてないでしょうか？また、工事の予定はないでしょうか？

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• M
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• 2026/11/02 01:48

現在,ハワイ在住, 2年間の条件付きグリーンカードは有効期限が切れており、I-751（条件解除申請）を提出済みで、現在審査中です。手元には期限切れのグリーンカードと48ヶ月の延長レターがあります。今年4月には、この2つの書類を持って夫と一緒に日本へ3週間渡航し、問題なくハワイへ再入国できました。今回、個人的な事情で1人で日本へ10日間ほど一時帰国したいと考えています。しかし,1人での入国審査に強い不安があります。また、今年2回目の渡航となることで、追加審査や別室での審査になる可能性も心配しています。この状況で1人で日本へ渡航し、問題なく再入国できるのかどうか、、同じような状況でここ最近で1年に数回、日本へ帰国してハワイへ戻られた方いらっしゃいますでしょうか？どんな事を聞かれたか、どんな状況になったか、些細なことでも良いのでお力をお貸し頂けたらと思います。少しでも安心して日本へ一時帰国したいと考えております。どうぞ宜しくお願い致します。

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#2

• 佐里
• 2026/11/02 (Mon) 18:14
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申請状況が投稿者さんと全く同じ状況です。私の場合一人で年に１、２回一時帰国してますが(期間は1ヶ月だったり90日以内の滞在)、期限切れGCとレターを必ず出入国時に持参してイミグレで見せれば大丈夫でしたよ。特に質問もされません。
48ヶ月以内にはやく申請降りて欲しいですよね。。

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• きりぞう
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• 2026/09/17 16:20

My mother has dementia. It’s quite severe, and she can’t remember anything for even a minute.
I’m posting this in the hope that anyone with experience living with a mother who has dementia might be able to offer advice or insights. Thank you in advance.

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#4

• Baikinman
• 2026/09/27 (Sun) 19:29
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Sunshine,

That friend of yours is a wonderful person. I wonder if I could do something like that...

In our household, it’s the other way around—I’m starting to lose my mind, and sometimes I end up being a burden to my wife.

I “forget” things every now and then, and my wife—who’s a feisty one—gives me a real earful, but

since there’s nothing I can do about it, she puts up with it. She’s a great wife.

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#5

• きりぞう
• 2026/10/06 (Tue) 17:39
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私の母も見ていて辛いです。まだトイレは自分て出来るます。これからどんどん悪化していくしかないのでしょうか。。。。

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#6

• サンシャイン
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• 2026/10/06 (Tue) 23:01
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友人の奥様が認知症になった時はまだ良い薬がありませんでしたが、今は薬もあるので病院で検査すれば、良い薬を処方して貰えるので進行を大分遅らせる事が出来るはずです。

日本だと高額医療補助があるので金銭的に助かりますが、アメリカの保険がどの程度カバーしてもらえるのか分かりません。
製薬会社の中には、利益をほとんど開発費に投じて作った薬もあるので、高額な物もあります。

友人の息子さん二人が医者で、家族の支えで金銭的には余裕がありました。
アメリカの自己破産の一番の原因は医療費なので、どうにもならない時は自分は日本国籍なので帰国する事も考えています。

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• 忘子
• 2026/10/18 (Sun) 11:42
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痴ほう症と認知症は、同じなんですか？

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• 勿忘草
• 2026/11/02 (Mon) 00:29
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昔は痴呆症、現在は認知症らしいです。

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• Nika
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• 2026/10/16 14:33

しつこい程に様々なサイトから通常の半額くらいのビジネスクラスの航空券の販売を見ます。ある一つのサイトを利用している方がいて、その方曰くまだ詐欺などの被害には遭っていないとのこと。しかしながら、どのような経路でそれらの高額なビジネスクラスの航空券が販売できるのかがわからず、まだ信用できません。高齢になり、最近は二度の旅行も一度に減らしてでも、５時間以上のフライトはビジネスクラスを利用したいです。何故あのような料金でビジネスクラスが販売出来るのか、業界の方がいましたらお知らせください。

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#2

• プラヤ
• 2026/10/17 (Sat) 15:44
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マイルを買い取る業者があり、その業者が買い取ったマイルを使ってビジネスクラスを安く利用したい人のビジネスクラス特典航空券を取得、通常のビジネスクラスより安く販売しているものがほとんどです。
航空会社がそれを発見した場合、その航空券は取り消されます。

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• Noa
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• 2026/10/01 10:58

とあるハワイの会社(日系メディア系)で社員の個人のSNSの利用でアカウントをやめなければ即日解雇と社長の独断でなったそうです。
そのようなことはできる、される、のでしょうか。。。

前提として業務時間中にやっていたわけでもなく、何か不利益になることをしたわけでもないようです。
「24時間会社に忠実にいるべき（気に食わないから）」が理由のようです。。。

そんな昭和な発想の人がいるんですねという感想ですが、、、
もしそういう事例(ヤバイ会社)があったら教えて欲しいなと思い投稿です。
SNSなんて皆やっている時代ですのでね。。。

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#2

• 会社
• 2026/10/02 (Fri) 18:45
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その会社は違法行為ですね。

SNSをしてるからと言って、解雇をする事は違法行為ですね。

強行しようとするなら、弁護士さんにご相談された方が良いですね。

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• North Hills
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• 2026/10/09 (Fri) 01:46
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嫌なら その会社を辞めればいいだけです 他に働くところはいくらでもあるでしょう

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• おはな
• 2026/10/02 01:50

今年新患でファミリードクターの予約を取られた方がいましたら教えてください。

新患の場合、ファミリードクターの予約を取るのに日にちがかかると聞きました。
ホノルル市内でどれくらい先に予約が取れましたか？
もちろん、ドクターによって違うと思いますが、経験者の方いらっしゃいましたら教えてください。

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#2

• なな
• 2026/10/03 (Sat) 22:40
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HMSAやカイザーに直接電話したほうが早いですよ。

新患を受付してくれるドクターを紹介してくれるので、数名、電話してみましょう。

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• R
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• 2026/09/24 01:56

I just moved to Hawaii and don't have a track record here yet. Please tell me how to find a good place to live.
There are some sketchy websites out there, so if you know of any good real estate agencies, please let me know. ！

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• 不動産
• 2026/09/24 (Thu) 12:54
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If it’s a major U.S. real estate company, you can trust it.

Kelly Williams （ K.W.) and the like.

Are you looking to rent ？ or do you plan to buy? ？

It depends on that.

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• R
• 2026/09/25 (Fri) 00:32
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I see. ！ It's a rental. ！

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• 不動産
• 2026/09/25 (Fri) 16:23
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If you're looking to rent, I think it's best to go with a real estate agency that has close ties to the local community.

I think you should contact the real estate agencies listed in this town guide.

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• アンマスク
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• 2026/09/21 16:55

I recently received an item from Amazon that was shipped to me by mistake.
Since I had placed an order very recently and my name was written on the package, I opened it—only to find it was an item I hadn't ordered.
I asked around my neighbors, and no one recognized it, so
I currently have it in my possession. What would you do in this situation? ？
The package contained everyday household items—specifically, bathroom supplies.

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• DOWNTOWN
• 2026/09/21 (Mon) 17:30
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I think you should contact Amazon.

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• こーの字
• 2026/09/21 (Mon) 18:25
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I know this might be overthinking things, but since you mentioned that this was a recent order and your name was on the box,
is there any chance that the wrong package was sent? ？
If that’s the case, I’ll contact Amazon to let them know I received the wrong item.
What is the current shipping status of your most recent order? ？

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• rak
• 2026/09/22 (Tue) 03:36
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Do you have any idea who might have given it to you as a gift? ？

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• アンマスク
• 2026/09/24 (Thu) 01:38
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Since there had been an incident in the past where a package intended for another household was delivered to us—
(this is a townhouse)—I asked my neighbors, who seem to shop on Amazon frequently, and “There have been times when items meant for our house ended up at another neighbor’s. If it’s something you didn’t buy, why not just keep it? ？” I’ve been waiting for a response from Amazon since I posted this, but haven’t heard back yet. I appreciate everyone’s opinions. Thank you very much.

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